Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
1 Corinthians 13:4
What does the word "date" mean to you? I mean in terms of being in a relationship with a man or woman. Not the fruit. Well, to me it seems to have become like a a game. I've heard so many people say they're dating someone and they end up breaking up days, weeks, months or even years later, none the wiser.
You gotta be kidding me
Dating is so childish nowadays. The relationship between a man and a woman has wandered far from the path. It is not as it used to be. The one thing I hear a lot is;
" Let's take a break for awhile. I need time to think..."
Seriously? Think about what? I'm sorry If I sounded harsh, this just boils my blood. It got me thinking after reading that in the newspaper from a person writing a letter to the 'Dear ____counselor person.' I thought,
Why do we say that to boyfriends and girlfriends? We don't say that to our siblings or parents. Or even friends. If we want to think about something we just go and do it. We think through life in relationships. Why is it different with a dating relationship?
It is not rude, it is not self -seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
1 Corinthians 13:5
The reason for that excuse of taking a break and putting the relationship on hold is because it becomes to much. Or that's an excuse to ease out of the relationship. When did people start saying that? I'm sure it would be hard to figure out when exactly. But, I can guess those cliche's came up when the world became more fast paced. People jump into relationships so quickly and not knowing exactly why they're jumping in can get confusing and scary fast. How do we get away from this way of thinking? From toying around with God's metaphorical relationship of himself that is so beautiful and mysterious? We need to step back and see what God has to say.
Three times in the Song of Songs this phrase is uttered;
'Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.'
I strongly believe that many men and woman awaken love in their hearts before God so desires it. The one love that we should desire above all is God's love. He will not disappoint, rush, confuse or control you. His love is patient, kind and ever filled with grace. I'm not saying that the love between a man and woman is ridiculous but it's the way people go about it. Dating is meant to be a means to get to know someone so that you can know if you want to marry them. It's not a game or a comfort thing. You should take your single days as the time to find who you are. Get to know the Lover of your soul! It can be for deepening your relationship with your parents and/or siblings. Even though I can't guarantee that when you meet the man you want to marry that everything will be perfect, hopefully you won't 'take a break' or 'place a hold on the relationship.' I hope that you can work though it with him, whatever it may be, because if you're going to marry him, you have to share life with him.
Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:8
